Fashionable Nigerian singer Tems has opened up about her previous expertise in a poisonous relationship, revealing how her accomplice’s behaviour negatively affected her.
Talking throughout a candid interview with media character Angie Martinez, the Essence crooner described the connection as one the place her accomplice was “obsessive and possessive.”
In accordance with Tems, the expertise conflicted together with her private beliefs about love and relationships, as she emphasised {that a} wholesome relationship needs to be constructed on partnership somewhat than management or possession.
She additionally famous that poisonous relationships may be notably draining, including that in lots of instances, the particular person exhibiting poisonous behaviour could not even pay attention to it.
Her phrases …
“I’ve skilled love the place I believed it was love nevertheless it was extra like when somebody is making an attempt to personal you. They assume that they personal you. And that’s not love.
“Love is just not obsession. And it isn’t possession. I can’t personal one other human being. Love is when each of you grow to be one particular person.
“We don’t personal one another, we’re one another. I really feel everybody has skilled poisonous love with somebody who doesn’t even know that they’re poisonous.
“They are saying they love you however they don’t know that they don’t even love you. As a result of you possibly can’t love somebody you are feeling you personal..”