A young man has sparked discussions on social media after sharing his experience of growing up with a single parent and later reconnecting with his father.
In a video making the rounds online, the man advised children of divorced parents not to judge their fathers based solely on what they were told while growing up, stressing that every story has more than one side.
Growing Up With Resentment
The young man revealed that he was raised by a single mother and spent most of his life believing his father was a bad person.
According to him, he grew up hearing negative stories about his father and was led to believe that the man had abandoned the family.
“Just because your mother and father are divorced doesn’t mean your father is a bad person. All this single mother ehn, once they are no more with their husband, you as a child, they will train you as you’re growing up to hate your father. They will tell you lies.”
He added that as a child, he accepted everything he was told without questioning it.
“Me, I was brought up by a single mother. And all my life, the story my mother told me about my father, everything. I remember my father clearly, but I know he left us. He run away, like he leave my mother with the children. So I grew up hating my father.”
Reconnecting With His Father
The young man said his perspective changed when he became older and decided to contact his father directly.
“But as I grew up now, I contacted my father. We talked as man to man.
He stated that he was shocked by what he learned during their discussion.
“I was so disappointed. Because me growing up, what my mother told us, and how she trained us, my father is a bad person. Oh my God.”
Understanding Life From Adult Perspective
Reflecting on the experience, he said becoming an adult helped him see that life and relationships are often more complicated than they appear to children.
“But, as a man, I know life is hard. I know how things are going. My father told me everything, I understand him, and I forgive him.”
Advice to Children of Divorced Parents
“So, you that hate your father, first hear your father’s side of the story. Don’t just judge because of what your mother told you.”
“Have a one-on-one talk with him. Call him. Have a conversation with him. He will tell you everything.”
“What you’re thinking that happened is not what actually happened. Even though it happened like that, there’s two sides of every story. Usually one side you hear, hear from the other side.”
“So, call your father now. Peace.”
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